This is so true. I’ve got an essay I’ve been working on from the other side. That whole “coveted Native American ancestry” was poisonous to multiple generations of my family — I’ve already written on that — but a whole other level is white supremacy’s support of colorism, from drops to paper bags to hair.
My light skin and wavy hair was exactly what you describe: license. We are our hair is so true, and the poisonous anti-blackness of European beauty expectations infects both our self love and our relationships.
Thank you 🙏🏽🔥🖋